Reward Charts

Used the right way, reward charts can boost motivation, build confidence and strengthen your bond - not bribes, just positive reinforcement that works.

You’ve probably heard mixed opinions about reward charts - some parents swear by them, others feel unsure. And like most things in parenting, it’s not about whether they’re “right” or “wrong” - it’s about how they’re used, and whether they suit your child’s personality and stage. 

At Step Start, we believe that when used positively and with consistency, reward charts can be a helpful tool to encourage behaviours like tidying up, using the toilet, or calming down before bed - without pressure, shame or unrealistic expectations.

What is a reward chart, really?
It’s simply a visual way for children to see progress, feel proud of their efforts, and build momentum towards a goal, usually with stickers, stars or stamps. The focus is always on effort, not perfection.

When they can be helpful:

• Potty training
• Bedtime routines
• Getting dressed independently
• Trying new foods
• Calming down without a meltdown
• Tidying up or helping around the house

How to use reward charts positively:

Be clear and specific
Choose one behaviour to focus on (e.g. “putting toys away when asked”) and explain what earns a start in child-friendly language.

Keep it age-appropriate
For younger children, aim for short-term wins (e.g. 3 stars = small reward). Long charts can feel overwhelming for children.

Involve your child
Let them help decorate the chart or choose stickers, it gives them ownership.

Praise the effort, not just the result
“You tried really hard to calm down - that was brilliant!” counts, even if the behaviour wasn’t perfect.

Stay consistent, not strict
If a day is tricky, don’t punish - talk about it, reset and keep going.

Make rewards meaningful, not material
Rewards can be extra story time, choosing the dinner, or picking the weekend activity. Connection beats sugar every time.

And when to pause the chat… 
If your child becomes too focused on the reward, gets anxious about not getting a sticker, or it starts to feel like a battle - it’s ok to step back. Charts should feel encouraging, not controlling.

Reward charts are a tool, not a fix
They work best when used with warmth, consistency and clear communication. At Step Start, we use visual prompts and gentle encouragement to support positive behaviour every day, and we’re always happy to help you do the same at home.