Supporting Sibling Relationships and New Baby Transitions
Helping your older child adjust to life with a new sibling, with patience, love and a little preparation.
Welcoming a new baby is an exciting time, but it can also bring big changes, especially for the older sibling. It’s completely normal for children to feel unsure, unsettled or even a little jealous when their family dynamic shifts. At Step Start, we regularly support families going through this transition and we know that with gentle guidance, open conversation and lots of reassurance, children can adapt, and even grow into proud, caring big siblings.
Why it can feel tricky for older children:
- They’re used to having your full attention
- They don’t always understand what a new baby means
- Their routines may change
- They might worry about losing their place in the family
These feelings are normal and with the right support, they usually pass.
How to prepare your child for a new sibling:
Talk about the baby in simple, age-appropriate ways
Let them know what to expect: “The baby will cry a lot, but that’s how they talk.”
Use books and stories
There are wonderful children’s books about becoming a big brother or sister - reading them together helps spark conversation.
Involve them in preparations
Let them help pack the hospital bag, choose a toy for the baby, or decorate the nursery. It builds a sense of ownership and inclusion.
Create a ‘big sibling’ kit
A small basket of toys, books or activities just for them when visitors come or the baby needs feeding.
Reassure them of their place
Tell them often: “You’ll always be my special big boy/girl” and mean it.
After the baby arrives - keeping connection strong:
- Spend one-on-one time with your older child, even just 10 minutes a day
- Give them small “jobs” to help with baby (fetching a nappy, choosing an outfit)
- Name their emotions when they act out: “I think you’re feeling left out - it’s ok, I’m here”
- Be patient with regressions, it’s common for older children to go backwards a little before moving forward
How Step Start supports sibling transitions:
- We talk openly about changes at home and help children express their feelings
- We read stories, use role play and explore ‘families’ through small world and imaginative play
- We keep communication open with parents to support consistency between home and nursery
Change is big, but so is love!
Bringing home a new sibling can feel overwhelming, but it also brings new opportunities for growth, empathy and family connection. With time, your child will find their new palace and you’ll be right there guiding them through it.